I haven’t been online to post as much of late as the computers here at work have been all screwy, the sales computers were being replaced, and I’m hella busy. At any rate I am alive, and have a story for the masses.
So, I don’t know if I mentioned it here before, but I’m getting married in January. The invitations went out and we’ve been getting the RSVP’s over the past week or so. Yesterday we got one back from my mother’s uncle.
“Monsignor,” or M from here on out, is a Monsignor in the catholic church. I was raised catholic. I received 4 of the 7 sacraments (that’s all but last rites, marriage, and being ordained), 3 of which were administered by M. He married my grandparents, my parents, my aunts, my uncles, and my mom’s cousins. He performed the funerals of my grandfather (M’s brother), my grandmother, and my mom’s uncle (M’s other brother). I was an altar server for nearly all of those ceremonies that I was around for (I was an altar server for about 7 years). He baptized nearly all of the offspring, with one exception that I’m aware of. My cousin was conceived out of wedlock, so he didn’t baptize her, so she was baptized by another priest. He’s old and extremely catholic, being a Monsignor and all, making him very old school.
Milca and I are not getting married in the church. I don’t have a problem with this, and my reasoning behind this could take up another couple posts of their own. Milca was baptized catholic, but that’s about where that ends. She and I are very spiritual, and embrace morals and ethics very dearly.
The RSVP card had “NOT” written in where you were to put the number of people that were coming. Under that he wrote, “No mass? Is she catholic?” Enclosed was $25.
Milca got the card before I did, and had already decided that we were sending the money back. I agreed. M’s Birthday is coming up, and we were going to go to the surprise party. That is, we were planning on going. M also has an annual Christmas party that we will not be attending either.
I talked to my mom last night about this. She didn’t try to convince me to change my mind but she did try to get me to talk to him to find out what’s going on. I may talk to him, I haven’t decided 100% yet. Right now I want to write a card that merely says, “No, there will not be a mass. No, she is not catholic.” and include the $25.
The funny thing is that Milca was worried that my mom would be upset about the ceremony not being in the church. While she would prefer it be in the church, she has been extremely understanding and wonderful. I would expect nothing less from my mother. I suppose I should have expected some kind of a response, but I still can’t help but be offended.
Silly Jeebus.