This 3 day weekend was primarily focused around the wedding plans and whatnot. It’s been somewhat frustrating, since most of the details were based on unknown factors. For example, we couldn’t say how many people to invite until we knew where the wedding was going to be. We also didn’t know when it would be until we knew where. Then there’s the guest list in general. Well, I’m happy to say that some of the finer details have been worked out.
First, Milca wanted a small wedding. I did too, but then I have a huge famliy. When we first tried to list everyone from each of our families, her list hit about 20, tops. Mine was around 60. That’s a lot of people. At that point we didn’t even try to go on to list friends, as that would have been even more frustrating. This weekend we had the idea to have two seperate lists. The people at the wedding, and the people at the ceremony. When she had listed her fmaily, and I had listed just aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins that were over 18, and then we added our closest friends, the list was at about 40 people. Excellent. Granted, there may be some people that might feel snubbed, but that’s what the reception is for.
We went on to list all the friends, old teachers, and everyone else that mattered to either of us that we’d want their. That list hit about 150. Even now I am thinking of names that I would want to put on the list that I had not remembered. It’s tough trying to list everyone. I try to remember everyone, but as there are so many people, I can’t remember them all.
Milca’s mom went looking for places to have the reception. It should be known that her mom watches HGTV. All the time. Every day. When I walk into the room, and the TV is on, and she’s on the couch, it’s HGTV. I don’t even have to look. That being said, she has taken a particular interest in every detail of the wedding. Cool by me, as it’s her only daughter’s wedding, and she has good taste. She found a place in Pasadena, Los Guero’s Grill, that she liked. It used to be the Red Barn, a Peruvian restaurant, that had burned down. This place just reopened 2 months ago. Apparently, there are 2 other Los Guero’s Grills, and they do fairly well. We went to have lunch there to try the food, meet the manager, and see the place. It’s perfect. The food would be fajitas, chicken and vegetarian. There’s plenty of room for up to about 200 people, which we will likely hit. The area has a private entrance, so the guests won’t have to walk through the restaurant, and private bathrooms, which is nice. The prices are awesome, and the food was great. They make guacamole right at your table. It’s crazy.
The wedding party will not be traditional, nor will the ceremony. I was raised Catholic, and still hold many of the beliefs and whatnot, but I’m not very keen on the traditional ceremony, nor is Milca. The ceremony has yet to be organized and whatnot, we are still figuring out some of the finer details, but we are trying to get as many friends involved as possible. I asked my boy Mike to play guitar. He agreed, but is very nervous about knowing the material. We’ve got time, so I think he’ll be fine. My boy Donavan will be the photographer (who will be using primarily black and white). The wedding party itself is typically broken up by sex. Not this time. My best friend is a girl. Milca has a brother. I want my cousin to be on my side. So, Milca will have her 3 best girlfriends and her brother with her, and I will have my best friend, my brothers, and my cousin. I haven’t asked my cousin yet, but I’m sure she’ll say yes. My brother Corey will be the best man. I am not sure that Milca will have a maid of honor, as the 3 girlfriends of hers are each candidates.
1) M is her best friend. They take often, and have been through the ringer together.
2) A was a good friend in high school, who chose Milca as her maid of honor when she was married.
3) T is Milca’s oldest friend, going all the way back to preschool.
I think that Milca doesn’t want to choose to avoid stepping on toes. Personally, I’d say M, but then I don’t get a maid of honor, so it’s not my choice to make.
Apart from that, this weekend was pretty relaxing. I’ve been going to the gym 4 days a week, and have felt a difference. I was staying an hour, but lately it’s been more like an hour and 15 minutes. Afterwards I feel great. I can barely walk, and my arms feel like warm butter, but I feel great.